How can therapy help me?
A multitude of benefits are available from participating in therapy.
Therapists can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping
strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship troubles,
unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, body image issues and
contact interruptions with self and environment. Many people also find that
a licensed therapist can be a tremendous asset to managing personal growth,
interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the
hassles of daily life. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a
difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits
you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into
practice what you learn. Some of the benefits available from therapy
- Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals and values
- Developing skills for improving your relationships
Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that led you to seek therapy
- Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
- Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
- Improving communications and listening skills
- Changing old behaviour patterns and developing new ones
- Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family or marriage
- Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence
Do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems on my own.
Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may
have successfully navigated through other difficulties you've faced,
there's nothing wrong with seeking out extra support when you need it and
learning to ask for help. In fact, therapy is for people who have enough
self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something
to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you're at
in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking
therapy. Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you
the tools you need to avoid triggers which feed reactivity, re-direct
damaging, destructive patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face
with a sense of clarity and confidence.
Why do people go to therapy and how do I know if it is right for me?
People have many different motivations for coming to psychotherapy. Some
may be going through a major life transition (unemployment, divorce, new
job, etc.), or are not handling stressful circumstances well. Some people
need assistance managing a range of other issues such as low self-esteem,
depression, anxiety, addictions, relationship problems, spiritual
conflicts and creative blocks. Therapy can help provide some much needed
encouragement and help with skills to get them through these periods.
Others may be at a point where they are ready to learn more about
themselves or want to be more effective with their goals in life. In
short, people seeking psychotherapy are ready to meet the challenges in
their lives and ready to make changes in their lives.
Please explain how you work.
What is therapy like?
My work is integrative, present centered, intuitive, and compassionate,
yet also direct and to the point, when useful. Together, we will create a
space for you to achieve your goals, whether that be healing and
transformation of old wounds or a newfound awareness of the changes you
would like to achieve in your life. At the very least, you will gain an
expanded skill-set that will assist you in living the life you want to be
living and experiencing congruency of action and vitality of being.
I recommend, that if you are interviewing several practitioners, it might
be best to schedule a session with several therapists, as if "interviewing
live" (after doing the screening from initial phone interviews). It is
important that you trust this person and that you feel safe in their
presence and that you believe this person can be helpful and constructive
in facilitating positive change and forward movement. In the case of
couples and families, where more than one person needs to "connect", it is
important that all parties present have a good experience and "like" the
therapist, believing them to be able to be helpful, feeling understood and
received without judgment. Working "live" allows each person to have a
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will
be different depending on the individual. In general, you can expect to
discuss the current events happening in your life, your personal history
relevant to your issue, and report progress (or any new insights and
awareness gained) from the application of the previous therapy sessions.
Depending on your specific needs, therapy can be short-term, for a specific
issue, or longer-term, to deal with more difficult patterns or your desire
for more personal development. Either way, it is most common to schedule
regular sessions with your therapist (usually weekly - for couples, every
It is important to understand that you will get more results from therapy if
you actively participate in the process. The ultimate purpose of therapy is
to help you bring what you learn in session back into your life. Therefore,
beyond the work you do in therapy sessions, your therapist may suggest some
things you can do outside of therapy to support your process - such as
reading a pertinent book, journaling on specific topics, noting particular
behaviours or taking action on your goals. People seeking psychotherapy are
ready to make positive changes in their lives, are open to new perspectives
and take responsibility for their lives.
What modalities are you actually integrating when you do psychotherapy?
I integrate Systems Theory, Gestalt Theory, Cognitive/Behavioural,
Developmental/Behavioural and Intuitive/Energetic modalities. I believe in
understanding the beliefs held in the mind that one lives and acts by,
often without conscious awareness as well as the importance of
understanding one's emotions and body-intelligence. It is essential to be
connected and aware of the truth of one's whole self. This awareness can
inform one's actions in the world and in the surrounding relationships of
life. I value integration of the self, meaning that all dimensions of the
self, however multi-layered, once fully owned, can lead to a satisfying,
creative and enlivening life.
What about medication vs. psychotherapy?
It is well established that the long-term solution to mental and emotional
problems and the pain they cause cannot be solved solely by medication.
Instead of just treating the symptom, therapy addresses the cause of our
distress and the behavior patterns that curb our progress. You can best
achieve sustainable growth and a greater sense of well-being with an
integrative approach to wellness. We will work together to create a
treatment plan for you, and, if necessary, we will work with a referring
psychiatrist to help you determine what's best for you. In some cases, a
combination of medication and therapy is the right course of action for a
particular period of time. We will discuss this in person, and if necessary
we will make the decision together that is right for you.
Do you take insurance, and how does that work?
No. As an "Out-of-Network Provider", I don’t get involved in any insurance
issues and don’t provide paperwork (TRF forms) or Clinical Assessments by
phone with insurance carriers. You will receive a "Superbill" with all the
information that an insurance company generally requires. You, the client,
are then responsible to submit the Superbill along with your insurance form
directly to your carrier for reimbursement to you. My office does not accept
insurance payments directly. The Superbill, along with your claim form, is
sufficient for reimbursement as an Out-of-Network Provider. If you choose
not to use your insurance carrier for reimbursement, you can also use my
Superbill as proof of payment for medical expenses. I am licensed in the
State of New Jersey as a Marriage and Family Therapist.
Payment is expected in the form of cash or check at the end of the session.
You will receive whatever percentage of reimbursement your insurance company
provides, after services are complete and you have submitted the necessary
paperwork to your insurance company. Many clients are reimbursed from 80% to
50%. However, you need to do the initial work to find out what percentage
your insurance carrier will reimburse if this is important to you.
Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?
Confidentiality is one of the most important components between a client and
psychotherapist. Successful therapy requires a high degree of trust with
highly sensitive subject matter that is usually not discussed anywhere but
the therapist's office. Sometimes, however, you may want me as your
therapist to share information or give an update to someone on your
healthcare team (your Physician, Naturopath, Attorney), but by law I cannot
release this information without obtaining your written permission through
an "Informed Consent" form.
However, state law and professional ethics require therapists to maintain
confidentiality except under the following circumstances:
* Suspected past or present abuse or neglect of children, adults, and
elders, based on information provided by the client or collateral sources.
* If the therapist has reason to suspect the client is seriously in danger
of harming him/herself or has threatened to harm another person.
In either of these circumstances, I am required to notify the appropriate
authorities, including Child Protection and law enforcement.